3 Ways to Conquer Yourself (Before You Try to Take on The World)

Many people, from the pharaohs of Egypt to the emperors of Rome, have dreamt of bending the world to their will. But the greatest conquest is not over lands or people but over oneself.

I like what Leonardo da Vinci once said:

“You will never have a greater or lesser dominion than that over yourself…the height of a man’s success is gauged by his self-mastery; the depth of his failure by his self-abandonment.”

Our internal battles determine our external outcomes. Within each of us lies a host of emotions, desires, and biases that can impede our progress, distort our judgment, and lead us astray.

Mastering your internal forces is a powerful way to live with clarity, purpose, and effectiveness. Your best life depends on it.

Conquering yourself starts with these three life habits.

1. Start with mental discipline

Rule your mind or it will rule you.”— Horace

The mind is the command centre of our being. Its contents shape our perceptions and dictate our actions.

To conquer yourself, you must go deeper into your mind.

That means cultivating self-awareness — observing your thoughts and emotions without judgment. Or better still, identifying the patterns and triggers that influence your behaviour.

Imagine standing outside the theatre, observing your mind like a play on a grand screen. Now, observe the narrative roll of your life, the emotional outbursts and the battle of desires. That objective detachment, without judgment or blame, is the foundation of self-mastery.

But self-awareness alone is not enough.

To truly conquer your mind, you must go beyond passive observation and understand the patterns and triggers that pull your strings.

What kind of thoughts lead to procrastination? What situations spark anger? How do specific images manipulate your desires? Uncovering these hidden experiences gives us the power to rewrite them.

Once you know how your mind operates, you can use practices like cognitive reframing to rewrite the stories you tell yourself and respond better to the many curveballs in life.

2. Tame the ego

The ego is the part of ourselves that craves recognition, validation, and control. While a healthy ego is essential for self-confidence and motivation, an unchecked ego can quickly become an enemy.

To conquer yourself, you must learn to tame your ego.

“The happiness of a man in this life does not consist in the absence but in the mastery of his passions.” — Alfred Lord Tennyson

The first step in taming the ego is recognition. Just as identifying the patterns of our mind is crucial, so too is understanding the subtle manifestations of ego.

An unhealthy ego always looks for constant praise and wants to be right almost always. It fuels the need to dominate conversations, to dismiss opposing viewpoints, and to bask in the limelight. Observing these behaviours without judgment is the first step towards reclaiming control.

Humility is the antidote to an inflated ego.

Learning from others, accepting criticism without defensiveness, and celebrating the successes of others become powerful tools in deflating the ego’s inflated sense of self.

You can also break free from the self-centred bubble when you step outside your comfort zone. When you engage in activities that challenge your skills, expose you to diverse perspectives, and force you to rely on others, the ego’s self-importance begins to crumble.

Taming the ego is not about crushing it but finding a healthy balance. We need the confidence to pursue our interests and assertively defend our values and what we want from life.

3. Embrace vulnerability

Our vulnerabilities are often perceived as weaknesses, to be hidden away from the world. However, you must learn to embrace your vulnerabilities to truly conquer yourself. That means acknowledging your fears, insecurities, and imperfections without shame or judgment.

Brené Brown, author of Daring Greatly could not be more right when she said, “Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”

Vulnerability is not weakness; it is strength.

Insecurities, our shadow selves, can be transformed into powerful motivators for growth. When we own our vulnerabilities, we give them less power over us. We can channel that discomfort into learning new skills, seeking support, and building self-acceptance.

To conquer yourself is to forgive yourself, to learn from your missteps, and to rise again, stronger and wiser. The tree still stands tall after weathering storms. Its scars are proof of resilience. Its branches still reach for the sky.

Accepting your vulnerabilities helps you open yourself up to authentic connections on a level far deeper than superficial smiles and polite exchanges. In this vulnerability, you forge genuine relationships built on trust and acceptance.

Mastering your mind, taming your ego, and embracing your vulnerabilities is how you equip yourself to take on the world with clarity and purpose. Only then can you genuinely approach the external world with the inner strength and wisdom required to conquer any challenge.

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